July 16, 2025

ADDITIONAL CONTENT #1

Working on becoming

It’s time to begin working on becoming more Secure + Settled. Please choose one other practice, in addition to Catch and Release, to employ for the rest of the module. As you begin practicing, remember that progress and not perfection is the goal. Use calendar events and reminders to set aside the time for your practices and remember to jot down thoughts and learnings along the way.

For this week’s Additional Content, we wanted to keep it lighter and inspiring since you’ve been deep in reflection and reviewing content the last three weeks. We offer the following quotes as “gas in your tank” for the weeks ahead:

“The self-worth that comes from being kind to yourself is much more stable than that which comes from judging yourself positively.” (Kristien Neff, Self-Compassion expert)

"All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of thing shall be well." (Mother Julian of Norwich)

“Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.” (Brené Brown)

“What’s the difference between an insecure leader and a secure leader? I think it’s the difference between self-esteem and acceptance. The insecure leader chooses self-esteem over acceptance by refusing to see their own limitations. The secure leader accepts their limitations—not as excuses but as awareness.” (Jeff Henderson, author, coach, and consultant)

“If we do not transform our pain, we will most assuredly transmit it.” (Richard Rohr, author and Franciscan priest)

"The only person you should try to be better than, is the person you were yesterday.” (proverb)

Small Group Questions #2

Discuss the following with your Small Group:

1. What practice did you choose in addition to Catch & Release? Why did you choose this practice? What is your plan for following through?

2. As you explored the other practices, did you make any connections between certain practices and the saboteurs?

3. Which of the quotes in AC1 got your attention? Why?

July 9, 2025

Secure + Settled Practices

This week you will be reviewing all the Secure + Settled practices. Please listen to all of the Audio Notes and read the corresponding practices. Next week you will choose one practice to adopt during this module in addition to “Catch and Release.” Everyone will be doing Catch and Release. Pay attention to the practices that particularly grab your attention.

Introduction to the Practices

Catch and Release

Border Patrol

Council of Confidence

Identity Check

Explore Belief

Radical Acceptance

Total Recall

JFR

It’s Not Fair to Compare

To Whom and Why

Yes to Guilt

July 2, 2025

saboteur Assessment

The first week of the Secure + Settled module is about affirming your security and settledness. As a leader, you are able to be Secure and Settled to the degree that you can accurately answer: “To whom do I matter?” and “Why do I matter?” with a peaceful and honest acceptance of the good and bad. Hopefully you were able to reflect on and verbalize the answers to these questions last week.

This week you will look at the concept of Saboteurs, defined by Positive Intelligence as “a set of automatic and habitual mind patterns, each with its own voice, beliefs, and assumptions. They represent each person’s strategy for surviving physically and emotionally and getting one’s needs met. They typically are formed through a combination of born predispositions and early life experiences.”

Saboteur voices coax us into being Insecure and Unsettled. It is important that we recognize these voices and respond—not with judgment, shame, or self-condemnation—but with self-compassion and self-forgiveness. When we recognize these voices as untrue voices, they lose their power to shape our beliefs and behaviors.

According to Shirzad Chamine, Positive Intelligence author and coach, there are nine Saboteurs distinguished by motivation. Each person also has a Judge saboteur and a Sage voice. Chamine says that each person must learn to weaken their saboteur while strengthening their Sage voice. You can weaken these Saboteur thoughts by “catching them in your head red-handed.” You name the Saboteur for what it is.

To help you identify and name your saboteur, you will take the assessment linked below. You will receive a detailed Saboteur Assessment Report that summarizes your results while offering some background context. After you have read your report, begin to observe and label the voices of the Judge and Saboteur. Again, respond with self-compassionate recognition—that is all. Next week we will introduce practices that will feed your security and settledness.

References:
Positive Intelligence White Paper

An example of Self-Sabotage:
Beth Clayton’s talk at TEDxBroadway

Small Group Questions #1

Discuss the following with your Small Group:

1. How was the experience of articulating the answers to the questions “To whom do I matter?” and “Why do I matter?”

2. What did you discover from your Saboteur assessment? Were the results a surprise? Why or why not?

3. Have you begun to notice the Saboteur voice, or the voice of the Judge? If so, share your experience or the kinds of things your Saboteur usually says. How do you feel after you have listened to the Saboteur’s words? Do you have an example from the past on how you have been sabotaged?

July 25, 2025

Secure + Settled Kickoff Session

 Session Documents